The NEW Debate – #BLACKLOVE

 

I posted about Tyrese and his new wife on my blog’s Instagram. People made their comments and had their opinions which are fine. However, I don’t understand why black men feel the need to downgrade black women in order to prove a point. In my opinion this debate about who this man has married is similar to the light skin vs dark skin debate. It’s dumb as f*ck.

Initially I thought he went off and married a carbon Kim Kardashian copy. Now I know his wife, Samantha Lee is black-ish; meaning she’s Jamaican, Ecuadorian & African American. I am thrilled that he found his idea of black love.

However why does he consistently have to bark at women about what they should or should not do to get a man or how they should or should not look? Is marriage the greatest accomplishment and the end goal for women? Is everything we do from looking nice and smelling good for a man? Newsflash most women know that men don’t like or prefer makeup or weaves, etc. We do it for ourselves. If you wear makeup on your face does that automatically makes you a low self esteem woman who hates your natural beauty? I don’t think so, but according to Tyrese it means we have a little issue.

I had a guy once tell me how he wanted me to be all natural, but he had the biggest crush on Megan Good. Not taking anything away from her but, I mean she has her eyebrows tatted on her face and a very nice boob job.

At the end of the day, looks and all that is totally superficial. When you vibing towards something different you’ll learn to not care about what other people think.

“We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, you can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful. Otherwise, you would threaten the man. Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Now marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support but why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same? We raise girls to see each other as competitors not for jobs or accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing, but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are.”

― Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, We Should All Be Feminists